Don’t be silly, Wrap up that Willie!

Condoms are GRRREAT! When used correctly they help protect you from a whole host of bacterial and viral infections (they’ll also keep you from getting preggers if that’s one of your concerns).

But I’m not going to talk about statistics or the basics of how to use a condom (here’s some videos on the basics if you wanna brush up). For right now, I’m going to talk more about how condoms can increase your pleasure during sex – yeah, that’s right, I said INCREASE your pleasure.

First, there are tons of different types of condoms. Big ones, snugger ones, ones with spirals, bumps, ridges, pleasure pockets, and bends. Ones that make you tingle, ones that are thinner and some that are thicker. Plus, all sorts of flavors (fyi, flavored condoms should only be used for oral sex because they can cause problems for the va-jay-jay and the bum). All those condom “extras” aren’t just there for show; they can increase different sensations and make sex feel better (and last longer!). But, hey, don’t take my word for it; conduct your own research experiment to figure out what you like. And for extra fun you can learn how to put on a condom with your mouth. It helps incorporate condoms into sex play and is also a pretty neat party trick. It’s a good idea to practice this beforehand so that you don’t damage the condom with your teeth. I’m sure your partner will have no problem letting you practice, but if so, then revert to the old banana standby. Different folks like different strokes so this might not be for you. Half the fun is finding out what you like!

Now, let’s talk lube! Lube ain’t just for anal sex. Lube and condoms are like peas and carrots; they complement each other very nicely no matter where you’re sticking your dingy.

Is lube a new venture for you?  No worries, I’ll walk you through it. Put a drop of water based or silicone based lube on the erect penis before putting on the latex or polyurethane condom (trust me on this) and then as much as you like on the outside of the condom or directly on the vagina or rumpus. Reapply lube as needed while you’re doing the deed (dry sex causes too much friction which can cause the condom to break). People always ask me what the best lube is, and while I hear lots of great things about silicone based (my favorite being, “you can slip n’ slide on gravel with that stuff!”) the fact is that it’s really a personal choice. So depending on what you’re into it may vary.  Here’s a list of different lube pros and cons to help get you started.

That’s all for now, but check back soon for our next installment of Hotflash!

In the meantime, if you have questions or wanna talk about more fun ways to reduce your risk then give the Oregon AIDS/STD Hotline a call at 800.777.2437 or chat with them live online at www.oregonaidshotline.com. The Hotline Volunteers are super nice, nonjudgmental, and ready to answer all your burning questions! We’re here Monday-Friday 9am-6pm and Saturday 12pm-6pm (pacific).

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Oral Sex Part Deuce: Different parts require different arts.

Using your head when giving head:

Let’s talk blow jobs.  This is the mouth on penis action.  If you want to eliminate any possible risk of STDs then use a polyurethane, polyisoprene, or latex condom.  Don’t like the taste of condoms?  Fear not, there are condoms that come in different flavors!

OK, OK… I can actually hear you sighing from here.  I know, using condoms for oral sex isn’t realistic for everyone.  The good news is that if barriers aren’t your thing there are still ways to lower your risk.

Here are a couple tricks of the trade:

  • use the “harmonica method”.  By focusing on the shaft of the penis and not the head you’ll avoid any cum or pre-cum.
  • watch out for deep throating (especially vigorously).  It may irritate the lining of your throat making it easier for those pesky STDs to infect you.
  • if you have the head of the penis in your mouth then try not to take any ejaculate/semen into your mouth.
  • partner not so great about telling you when they’re going to cum?  When you think they’re getting close you can try finishing them off with your hand to avoid the unexpected ejaculation.
  • got ejaculate in your mouth?  spit it out quickly instead of swallowing it and it will help reduce your risk.

The low down on going down:

When you’re performing oral sex on a vagina it’s a similar deal.  Using a barrier like a dental dam (thin sheet made out of latex), condom (cutting it down the side), or saran wrap will do the trick.  Stay away from microwavable saran wrap because it’s more porous (has bigger holes in it) and HIV may be able to get through the holes.  For added pleasure slap some water or silicone based lube on the side of the barrier that will come into contact with the vagina.   If you don’t want to use a barrier then try to minimize how much fluid you swallow.   You should know: there is an increased risk for getting HIV is she is menstruating (having her period) because blood has more virus in it than vaginal secretions (aka the fluid in the vagina).

The art of rimming:

Ah, yes, the licking of the bum.  HIV is not typically transmitted through pooh, BUT there are other things like hepatitis A (there’s a vaccine you can get to prevent this!), parasites, and other STDs that can be.  You can use a barrier such as a dental dam (thin sheet made out of latex), condom (cutting it down the side), or saran wrap (preferably non microwavable) to protect yourself.  Pleasure tip:  put some water or silicone based lube on the side of the barrier that will be facing the butt.  One thing to know is that if you’re going to be rimming someone who just received anal sex (bottomed) then there’s the possibility of blood being present that can transmit different viruses, including HIV.

When it’s all said and done:

Get checked out.  Most STDs don’t have symptoms so get checked regularly.  Have them look in your mouth and swab your throat as well as your goodies.  I hear this a lot: “So what if I get a little gonorrhea in the throat?  I can clear that up with antibiotics!”  Well, yes, you can BUT some STDs aren’t curable (i.e. herpes) and if you have a STD in your mouth then it’s easier to get HIV from performing oral sex.

If you and your partner are monogamous you can both get checked out.  You can’t get something from someone who doesn’t have it.  And if they do have something that isn’t curable, then you’ll know what you’re looking for!

So there you have it.  Oral sex in a nutshell.  Have questions?  Need more info?  Call the Oregon HIV/STD Hotline 800.777.2437, we’re here to help!  You can also chat with us online at www.orgeonaidshotline.com

Film Friday

Every Friday I will be posting an educational, entertaining or just plain weird video on our site. Hopefully it will prompt discussion from you or at least get you thinking differently about an issue.

This week, Oral Sex

Pop quiz Define the following words:

Oral sex-

Fellatio-

Cunnilingus-

Irrumatio-

Anilingus-

Don’t read on until you’ve tried to define these for yourself….done? Okay now for the standard definitions (some of these may differ from person to person and body to body)

Oral sex involves giving or receiving oral stimulation (i.e. sucking or licking) to the genitalia. Fellatio (also known as a ‘blow job’) is the term used to describe oral sex given to a man. Cunnilingus is the term which describes oral sex given to a woman. Irrumatio is the clinical term used to describe sex involving a penis thrusting between the legs, breasts, feet, upper thighs or the abdomen of two partners. Lastly Anilingus is oral sex involving someone’s mouth and lips and the anus of their partner.

Remember folks, there are safe ways to practice oral sex and one fun way to increase sensation is to chew a couple breath mints (try around with different kinds, but of course stop of something doesn’t feel good). Altoids have been known to feel great during a blowjob, and I wish I had scientific data to either back this up or refute it, but unfortunately there’s a shortage of…..  hard evidence. Personal reports are easier to come by, but hard to quantify since everyone’s body is different and not everyone uses the altoid in the same manner. So I’ll leave it at this, Some people who say they’ve tried Altoids-enhanced fellatio insist the mints makes a marked difference; others say it’s just a waste of time. The only way to know is to try it for yourself.

Now watch this video. Midwestteensexshow.com is a great site to get more info on these matters and so many others like Condoms, Vaginas, etc.

Film Friday

Condom Building

Thank you AIDS awareness

Every friday I will be posting an educational, entertaining, or just plain weird video on our site. Hopefully it will prompt discussion from you or at least get you thinking differently about an issue.

This week, Condoms.

I know, condoms are nothing new and we seem to be getting the “just wear it” message all over the place, but I believe they are still an important thing to be talking about. The modern day latex condom has been around since the early 1900’s (approx. 1920) In the modern age, condoms are most often made from latex, but some are made from other materials such as polyurethane, polyisoprene, or lamb intestine. A female condom (or insertive condom) is also available, most often made of polyurethane.

Condoms have been used for at least 400 years. Yeh I know, can you imagine Louis XIV , Michelangelo, or Isaac Newton using condoms? Well they might have. Since the nineteenth century, they have been one of the most popular methods of contraception in the world. While widely accepted in modern times, condoms have generated some controversy, primarily over what role they should play in sex education classes. I say, put them on buildings and in lunch boxes (maybe not really), but they should play a role in sex education. I mean really, when is the last time you heard of someone being hurt from having more education?

Anywho, if you want to know more things to do with condoms, watch this video.

So tell me, how do you think condoms should be used in schools? Where would you like to see condom ads? Where should they not be? What other roles should condoms play in society? I can’t wait to hear what you come up with.

 

-Ernesto

What is CHATpdx?

Curbing HIV/AIDS Transmission (CHAT) is a collaboration between organizations and individuals working to curb HIV and AIDS transmission among young people through peer education and outreach, HIV testing, youth services and social media.

Funded through the Department of Health and Human Service – Office of Minority Health (OMH). Our work is carried out by a number of organizaitons including Cascade AIDS Project, Outside In, and the African American AIDS Action Awareness Alliance (A6).

What we do and what YOU can do:

  • CHATpdx (room) – These HIV testing/youth nights at Pivot (209 SW 4th Ave) occur every 2nd and 4th Mondays from 3 – 7pm (check the calendar).  Open for all youth 24 and under.  These nights include games, peer education, wii, snacks, and more.  Do you want your peer educators to “sponsor” a testing night? Contact Annika.
  • Print out a coupon and flyer
  • CHATpdx Facebook fan page – “Like” our page and get the latest CHATpdx news and events.  If you have an event relevant for youth 24 and under, send us the information, and we will post it. Contact Ernesto.
  • CHATpdx is on Twitter as well!  www.twitter.com/CHATpdx
  • CHATpdx has a blog on WordPress to engage and empower young people. Make sure to come back often to get the latest news and information.
  • Outreach testing events – do you have an event that will reach youth 24 and under?  Do you want HIV testing there?  Let CHATpdx know if you do, and we will see if we can make it work! Contact Annika.
  • For more information please email: Ernesto @  Edominguez@cascadeaids.org or call us at 503.278.3871