What does the Asian Pacific Islander National HIV/AIDS Awareness Day mean to me?

What does the Asian Pacific Islander National HIV/AIDS Awareness Day mean to me?

I have never heard of the Banyan Tree Project nor National Asian & Pacific Islander HIV/AIDS Awareness Day, which falls next month on May 19. Each year A&PI Awareness day is sponsored by Banyan Tree Project. National Asian Pacific Islander HIV/AIDS Awareness Day goal is too highlight the negative stigma, lack of communication and general awareness of HIV/AIDS in the API community. The theme for 2012 is “Saving face can’t make you safe. Talk about HIV–for me, for you, for everyone.” An idea that is very important to highlight in our community.
Growing up as a Queer Chinese Asian American; I have seen the hush, hush of just talking about the queer community. It’s something you don’t acknowledge nor talk about subject. Heck, I didn’t even know that there are community groups out there dedicating themselves to informing and educating the Asian Pacific Islander Queer community. Over the years, I have to learn to embrace myself, my community and all those that are a part of it. It was recently that I became even deeper part of the queer community and making myself part of the local API group, Asian Pacific Islander Pride, which had made me aware locally of the Asian Pacific Islander community and events. This is step one of many steps in my life to make myself a more engaging part of the API community. I’m proud for simply reaching out and help to increase awareness, decrease negative stereotypes and providing information that helps keep people informed.
Just like the other National HIV/AIDS Awareness Days, it is very important to embrace awareness into the ethnic groups of all backgrounds as those are the ones who generally are looked over and forgotten. I am glad that we, the Queer Asian community, are standing up and putting a voice to bring education and awareness to help make HIV/AIDS less of an impact while ending the stigma of being Queer in API community. The motto this year is for you to make our issue, your issue. Go and simply Speak Up! Get yourself involved in an organization, like Asian Pacific Pride, that you feel strongly with. It’s all starts with YOU.
What does A&PI HIV/AIDS Awareness Day mean to you?

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Oral Sex Part Deuce: Different parts require different arts.

Using your head when giving head:

Let’s talk blow jobs.  This is the mouth on penis action.  If you want to eliminate any possible risk of STDs then use a polyurethane, polyisoprene, or latex condom.  Don’t like the taste of condoms?  Fear not, there are condoms that come in different flavors!

OK, OK… I can actually hear you sighing from here.  I know, using condoms for oral sex isn’t realistic for everyone.  The good news is that if barriers aren’t your thing there are still ways to lower your risk.

Here are a couple tricks of the trade:

  • use the “harmonica method”.  By focusing on the shaft of the penis and not the head you’ll avoid any cum or pre-cum.
  • watch out for deep throating (especially vigorously).  It may irritate the lining of your throat making it easier for those pesky STDs to infect you.
  • if you have the head of the penis in your mouth then try not to take any ejaculate/semen into your mouth.
  • partner not so great about telling you when they’re going to cum?  When you think they’re getting close you can try finishing them off with your hand to avoid the unexpected ejaculation.
  • got ejaculate in your mouth?  spit it out quickly instead of swallowing it and it will help reduce your risk.

The low down on going down:

When you’re performing oral sex on a vagina it’s a similar deal.  Using a barrier like a dental dam (thin sheet made out of latex), condom (cutting it down the side), or saran wrap will do the trick.  Stay away from microwavable saran wrap because it’s more porous (has bigger holes in it) and HIV may be able to get through the holes.  For added pleasure slap some water or silicone based lube on the side of the barrier that will come into contact with the vagina.   If you don’t want to use a barrier then try to minimize how much fluid you swallow.   You should know: there is an increased risk for getting HIV is she is menstruating (having her period) because blood has more virus in it than vaginal secretions (aka the fluid in the vagina).

The art of rimming:

Ah, yes, the licking of the bum.  HIV is not typically transmitted through pooh, BUT there are other things like hepatitis A (there’s a vaccine you can get to prevent this!), parasites, and other STDs that can be.  You can use a barrier such as a dental dam (thin sheet made out of latex), condom (cutting it down the side), or saran wrap (preferably non microwavable) to protect yourself.  Pleasure tip:  put some water or silicone based lube on the side of the barrier that will be facing the butt.  One thing to know is that if you’re going to be rimming someone who just received anal sex (bottomed) then there’s the possibility of blood being present that can transmit different viruses, including HIV.

When it’s all said and done:

Get checked out.  Most STDs don’t have symptoms so get checked regularly.  Have them look in your mouth and swab your throat as well as your goodies.  I hear this a lot: “So what if I get a little gonorrhea in the throat?  I can clear that up with antibiotics!”  Well, yes, you can BUT some STDs aren’t curable (i.e. herpes) and if you have a STD in your mouth then it’s easier to get HIV from performing oral sex.

If you and your partner are monogamous you can both get checked out.  You can’t get something from someone who doesn’t have it.  And if they do have something that isn’t curable, then you’ll know what you’re looking for!

So there you have it.  Oral sex in a nutshell.  Have questions?  Need more info?  Call the Oregon HIV/STD Hotline 800.777.2437, we’re here to help!  You can also chat with us online at www.orgeonaidshotline.com

Film Friday

Every Friday I will be posting an educational, entertaining or just plain weird video on our site. Hopefully it will prompt discussion from you or at least get you thinking differently about an issue.

This week, Oral Sex

Pop quiz Define the following words:

Oral sex-

Fellatio-

Cunnilingus-

Irrumatio-

Anilingus-

Don’t read on until you’ve tried to define these for yourself….done? Okay now for the standard definitions (some of these may differ from person to person and body to body)

Oral sex involves giving or receiving oral stimulation (i.e. sucking or licking) to the genitalia. Fellatio (also known as a ‘blow job’) is the term used to describe oral sex given to a man. Cunnilingus is the term which describes oral sex given to a woman. Irrumatio is the clinical term used to describe sex involving a penis thrusting between the legs, breasts, feet, upper thighs or the abdomen of two partners. Lastly Anilingus is oral sex involving someone’s mouth and lips and the anus of their partner.

Remember folks, there are safe ways to practice oral sex and one fun way to increase sensation is to chew a couple breath mints (try around with different kinds, but of course stop of something doesn’t feel good). Altoids have been known to feel great during a blowjob, and I wish I had scientific data to either back this up or refute it, but unfortunately there’s a shortage of…..  hard evidence. Personal reports are easier to come by, but hard to quantify since everyone’s body is different and not everyone uses the altoid in the same manner. So I’ll leave it at this, Some people who say they’ve tried Altoids-enhanced fellatio insist the mints makes a marked difference; others say it’s just a waste of time. The only way to know is to try it for yourself.

Now watch this video. Midwestteensexshow.com is a great site to get more info on these matters and so many others like Condoms, Vaginas, etc.

Film Friday

Condom Building

Thank you AIDS awareness

Every friday I will be posting an educational, entertaining, or just plain weird video on our site. Hopefully it will prompt discussion from you or at least get you thinking differently about an issue.

This week, Condoms.

I know, condoms are nothing new and we seem to be getting the “just wear it” message all over the place, but I believe they are still an important thing to be talking about. The modern day latex condom has been around since the early 1900’s (approx. 1920) In the modern age, condoms are most often made from latex, but some are made from other materials such as polyurethane, polyisoprene, or lamb intestine. A female condom (or insertive condom) is also available, most often made of polyurethane.

Condoms have been used for at least 400 years. Yeh I know, can you imagine Louis XIV , Michelangelo, or Isaac Newton using condoms? Well they might have. Since the nineteenth century, they have been one of the most popular methods of contraception in the world. While widely accepted in modern times, condoms have generated some controversy, primarily over what role they should play in sex education classes. I say, put them on buildings and in lunch boxes (maybe not really), but they should play a role in sex education. I mean really, when is the last time you heard of someone being hurt from having more education?

Anywho, if you want to know more things to do with condoms, watch this video.

So tell me, how do you think condoms should be used in schools? Where would you like to see condom ads? Where should they not be? What other roles should condoms play in society? I can’t wait to hear what you come up with.

 

-Ernesto